Sunday, November 1, 2015

Witnessing Eruptions of Domestic Disturbance (or, How to Raise a Danger to Society)

On my way home from the gym this afternoon, I witnessed what I believe to be the making of a dangerous future condition. 

Languidly strolling down a city block, my partner and I come upon a street junction where a chaotic display is unfolding. My post-gym serenity in the slow-motion fall of early-November foliage is brought to a screeching halt by a young woman gripping a little girl by the elbow as she stomps down the sideway angrily screaming, "Go with your father, go with your father!" The little girl, presumably her daughter, around the age of 5 or 6, crying loudly, is begging her mom to stop, as she gets dragged down the block by her young mother who is furiously chasing a young man. This young man is walking away briskly while screaming back at them, "Stay with your mother! Stay with your mother!" 

This loud domestic spectacle was occurring before my eyes over the span of two street corners, drawing the attention of pedestrians on the other side, who are now reconsidering crossing the street, and the passengers of the cars stopped at the light. 
Cutting through the chaos, we continue walking and cross away as their voices, now behind me, continue screaming about who the daughter should go with -- neither of them wanted her. 

At the other side of the crossing, I pass a young girl with a look of shock and confusion, standing next to an older sister (or perhaps babysitter), who is recording this circus, wearing an amused grin. Now further away, I hear the father loudly demanding the young lady to remove her clothes which he "paid for, and give them back to me!"

There were multiple victims in this episode, including the young girl with the look of confusion and concern, who appeared to be no older than 7 or 8 years of age. The desensitization required to go from being confused and concerned, to being amused, paves a path for a child to star in similar domestic episodes of their own in adulthood. 

Of course, the most devastated victim here is the unwanted little girl, being tossed violently between two angry parents. How this will be resolved for her, and how that will impact the future of human society, is what raises the greatest concern. Child-care services are likely to step in sooner, given the parental displays continue to be as public. In her adolescence she is likely to go through a series of foster homes, and may or may not receive a decent education. She may even learn from the mistakes of others and figure out how to avoid them. What is guarantee is that she will endure emotional attachment problems. 

Children subject to the trauma of violence and loss go on to develop [forms of] early attachment disorder which enable them to grow into monsters. The quality of their painful childhood is the fault of their tragic parents, and faults of their own [likely] future transgressions will be the burden of juries of their peers. Products of this type of aggression and rejection are dangerous for the child, their peers, as well as the rest of us. 

The following is a clip of an interview taken of a child psychopath, borne out of the trauma of early childhood abuse and neglect.


Related article
Are you traumatizing your Child without Knowing it?  
Lies, Trauma, and a Revised Look at CBT 
Structure of Human Experience 

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